Most matters gridlocked by personal pride are cloaked as matters of “principle”. They’re not.
It seems like a matter of principle when you’re mad as an angry bull and can only see the color red. “I can’t let him get away with doing that to me,” the attitude goes. “It’s about the principle!”
Principles are important. Without them society breaks down entirely. So, look at the deeper principles truly at stake—much ado about little, mountains grown from ant hills, grown adults squabbling over matters so silly, children can’t notice the difference. Being petty is also a matter of principle. · · · →
Don’t be numb to crazy. People who drive people crazy are probably crazy people. Review the personality disorders and a handful of the top complexes.
“Mental health” means living a productive life, maintaining happy friendships, ability to adapt, and being able to deal with adversity—not melting down or throwing a tantrum because of an opponent. One of the sure signs that someone needs professional intervention is an inability to take responsibility and be a Good Samaritan when circumstance obviously dictates.
Anyone can learn about mental health. When you see crazy, don’t fret and snowball your angry, recommend professional help. · · · →
Almost everything is predictable and for good reason. Some things don’t change. If you understand those things, fewer things will catch you off guard. Those things that don’t change are timeless principles.
Usually, it is an indication of antisocial tendency when someone can’t anticipate what consequences will follow certain choices and actions. If someone can’t tell where their choices will lead, they may not understand timeless principles either. In this sense, everyone suffers from antisocial tendencies on some level.
Learn wisdom, moral principles, timeless truths, and others’ pasts. The more you understand history, the less the future will surprise you. · · · →
If you can address a conflict in person, do it. Handling problems in public or in groups always makes things easier. Courts don’t allow evidence to be used without first being inspected by both the defendant and plaintiff. This is for good reason.
The cost of public humiliation doesn’t only humiliate the humiliated, it humiliates the public. Everyone has problems. Everyone knows everyone has problems. Those who deny their own problems stir the public into lynching others. But, that’s when the public accidentally lynches the Hunchback.
Publicity trump cards come at a cost: They make matters worse. Talk in person. · · · →